How to play with your kids – 4 suggestions of how to play
I understand sometimes it is hard for us as adults to play with our kids. As adults, we have many responsibilities which can prevent us from enjoying the little things if we do not switch our mindset to be able to relate to our children.
I personally enjoy playing with my kids as often as possible but regrettably sometimes I allow responsibilities from work and my life get in my way from playing with them. Also, being tired after working all day I sometimes feel like I really do not want to get down on their level on the hard floor to play.
The thing you should strive to remember each day when you wake up is that all your little bundle of joy deeply from their core wants is to be near you, to share something new they just learned and to explore new things with you. Your son wants you to show him how to play crashing cars with sounds and all.
Your daughter wants to play barbie imaginary world where everyone has flying horses and magic is always around the corner. Let’s explore four ways how to play with your kids below.
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX YOUR MIND
Make a conscious choice to relax your mind after your working day has ended. Take a few moments, you decide when, either at your desk after finishing work, on the ride home or just around the corner from your home.
Close eyes and take deep breaths
Do some exercises
The point is to connect to your body through the activities listed. The next time you finish work stop and reflect on how your current mental state. Is it stressed or tired?
Do you just want to go home, put your feet up and watch some of your favorite shows?
I know sometimes that is what I want to do but you know what? When I made the decision to do exactly that, I end up regretting the moments I choose not to spend with my kids. I do not want to do that anymore.
To be able to give to my kids I need to be able to relax my mind, to unplug it and get in touch with my body.
Kids are about movement.
As adults, we have learned and been conditioned to do the opposite. We sit at our desks for hours working away without a problem.
We may get up and move around after an hour.
Kids can not do this naturally.
They must move, jump, run, dance, swing their arms and kick their legs as they play, explore and learn.
So the next time take a moment to relax your mind and then go enjoy your kids and don’t forget to be silly.
BE SILLY AND ENJOY!
My kids love being silly, they love making funny faces, they love to play jokes on me, they love to play make believe.
As adults this can be the last thing you may ever think of doing. For a long time society has conditioned you to be serious, to be concerned about what others will think of you, to act grown up.
Personally when I am with my kids I strive to make them my main focus even though social pressures keep telling me to act and behave a certain way.
I work to find a balance.
As long as we are not bothering anybody or they are not acting inappropriately I try to let them enjoy themselves as well let myself enjoy this time.
You could try doing the same.
I especially am silly with my kids in my home. I try to play with them as often as I am able to. I enjoy it.
You will to by letting go, start by making a funny Disney voice and ask your kid to do the same as you play with dolls.
Or make the funny faces at each other. Or make shadows and see who makes the coolest shadows.
You will not regret letting your guard down with your kids. It may feel strange and uncomfortable but like anything the first few times this is a sign you are learning something new.
ASK YOUR KID WHAT GAME OR ACTIVITY THEY WANT TO PLAY
Sounds simple enough and it is.
The next time you want to play with your kid but do not know what ask them what they want to play and then play it together.
If you do not have the game you could buy it as a surprise for him which would make a great memory.
Another idea is for you to ask your kid for four games or activities they really want to do then write them down on four small pieces of paper.
Put the pieces of paper in a hat and tell your kid to pick the activity both of you will do that evening. It makes the evening more spontaneous for you. You can save the other activities for another evening.
HAVE RACES WITH THEM
You can do many types of races. You can race them on foot to a point and back.
You could get on your hands and knees and get them to do the same and make a course in the house.
Decide on a fun prize the winner will receive. Using your kids toys you could make a race course out of pillows and chairs.
Activities such as the ones listed above are great in my opinion because they are fun for your kid, allow you to bond and gets them to use up energy which is always a bonus when it comes time for bed.
The other day I was racing my daughter on foot with my son in my arms.
We all found it fun and got some exercise while doing it.
They slept great later that night and I got some time to relax before bed.
In conclusion we looked at four suggested ways on how to play with your kids.
They included taking a moment to relax your mind after a long day at work, being silly and enjoying your time together, asking your kid for suggestions on games and activities to play and finally to have races with them which are great bonding experiences.
What do you think of my four suggestions?
Do you agree or disagree?
What would you change, include or exclude?
I appreciate you taking the time to comment your thoughts!
Thanks for reading my post and have a great day!
Proud papa of two,