Be the change you want see in the world! Vow to do better next time!
Societal portrayal of fathers
As a father you face many responsibilities. Life can be tough and challenging at times. How we choose or not choose to deal with situations in life as they arise are always being observed by our children and spouse. You can plan out how you will handle any given situation ahead of time and yet the x-factor will throw a monkey wrench into the pistons of your machine messing everything up. The result of this on your part may be humiliation, defeat, frustration among other emotions. You have and need to recognize the power, strength and influence you have on creating the potential for a specific outcome in any given situation. Be the change you want see in the world by vowing to do better next time!
Society today often portrays fathers and men as irresponsible, not serious, dumb bumbling creatures that happen to live in a house with his wife and children. You do not see many television programs these days positively portraying men with many good qualities. Yes the media plays a role in creating these characters but you as a man need to take responsibility for these creations too. If as men we refused to be stereotyped into these roles as defined by these shows by not watching them and encouraging others around us to do the same, tomorrow we would begin to see more positive models on television. Also, societal perceptions of men and fathers would begin to change given enough time and positive role models.
Get up after failure
When you fail at achieving the goal you set out to do vow to get back up and do better next time. Do not defend yourself or your ego. Remember it is about becoming a better father for your children and husband to your wife. Your own father may have tried but failed to set a proper example of what it means to be a father and man. He may not have known how to do so and just 20 years ago would have had less information available today to turn to as sources to provide encouragement and advice.
Today there is a lot more information freely available online and if you do not find what you are looking for you can start your own online social community to obtain support and information. When you fall get back up, dust yourself off, focus on the positive, on what you can change today to start moving towards the reality you want for your family. Today’s reality is the sum of our pasts actions.
One example doing better
I apologize ahead of time if you have strong feelings towards senator John McCain and I do not intend in the following point to speak on whether his political policies were right or wrong. I only refer to the example he set as I saw it from an interview.
Former senator John McCain explained in an interview on the View that he had a laundry list of “regrets” from his life serving his country in the government. What impressed me was his approach and attitude to those things he wished he could change. Rather than get down on himself, attack what some today would consider political opponents to shift the spotlight and blame away from himself (mistakes and failures) instead he worked to understand what occurred, why it occurred and to try not repeating those same mistakes in the future.
I believe this to be a healthy approach to situations we face in life. It allows you to experiment and practice new concepts and ideas in order to move closer to the vision you have for your world. He did in his work to serve his country throughout his life.
In your role as a father and husband you can approach situations you come across with a similar approach. If something did not go according to how you planned it you can learn from it and do better next time. One situation may be that you wanted to bring your family closer together by booking a surprise trip to a weekend getaway at a nice resort they had been asking for but did not book reservations in time. The result might have been a lost trip or less desirable room. The next time you will know to make plans well in advance.
You may have regrets after situations where you had a teachable moment for your children but did not do it with calm and composure to help them understand your lesson. Although regrettable when we lose are cool in teachable situations it is not the end of the world. You can learn from the pain it caused and vow to not do it again. You will be a better father for it. Even if you have handled a situation that has repeatedly come up for years, it is not too late to stop doing that now. Decide to change the manner in which you handle situations with your family. You have it in you!
As a father set the example
You may or may not realize but as a father you have enormous power and influence over the situation in your household. Your spouse and children although they may not verbally say it or may not even be aware themselves need you to set the example and environment for your family. Actually as father and husband you are already doing this whether it is passively or actively on your part in your own household. You may be setting it positively or to the detriment of your family.
You are the guard of morality, spirituality, emotionally and financial health of your home. It is your role whether you and those around you today acknowledge it. It’s only been in the last 30 to 50 years that this has changed in our current society as reflected in our current cultural climate on television.
I believe it to be the natural role of a man in his household. A problem I believe exists is that hardly anyone is teaching this to our sons and daughters on what it means to be a man and father. Saying all of this is easy, for you to set a positive example will be the challenge and it is not something you will accomplish overnight. It will take time, patience and a lot of sweat on your part. You can do it though and your family deserves it. More men need to establish this as there aim, there goal for themselves. We need to step up to the plate and find a way to create a better future for our families and our society.
In conclusion, we examined the role of men in their families lives. We looked at the importance of getting up after falling down, John McCain’s actions and attitudes as an example to strive for and lastly as fathers setting the example in our households for our wives and children.